Emotional and Social Development, Ages 1-3 Welcome back! April 21, 2014 Todays Agenda: Emotional and Social Development between ages 1 and 3 Bell ringer Video: Toddler Self Esteem Notes: Emotional and Social Development
Emotional patterns Emotional development goes in cycles throughout a childs development. Periods of negativism, rebellion, happiness, calmness, stability. Generally around certain ages, though all are different. These are general guidelines. Create roller coaster
18 months Self-centered think only about their own needs and wants, and not those of others. Up until now, all needs have been met on demand. Starts to change around this age. Favorite word: No! Negativism
Doing the opposite of what others want Normal for a toddler They want independence say no because want to decide for themselves They are frustrated bodies cant always do what they want, language skills arent developed enough to express what they want, so very Battle of wills
Parents fight with child and it goes back and forth no one gives in Strategies to help prevent this: Put things away you dont want touched Positive guidance Give choices give them some control Redirect the child attention off the issue Encourage talking help them learn to say what they want or feel 2 years (Terrible?)
More emotionally stable speech and motor skills have improved = less frustration Understand more and can wait a bit longer for needs to be met Expresses love and affection freely Seeks approval and praise Easier to reason with Less self-centered
2 years Learning so much, often overwhelmed Comprehension and desires exceed their physical abilities blocks get knocked over Know what they want to say not always recognizable by adults Strongly want independence do not
want to conform 2 continued Independence and immaturity clash At this age, are stubborn, demanding, and domineering Moods change rapidly: from screaming to loving in no time Need consistency! Same routines, carried out the same way, everyday. Way of coping with confusing world.
Giving Choices How would you deal with the below situations in offering this child a choice: Luis wants to wear a new top while working in the garden John wants to eat candy for breakfast Bobby wants the toy that Matt is using Katrina wants to take a plastic toy with her to bed 3 year old
Generally happy and cooperative Learning to be considerate More physical capabilities less frustration More willing to take direction Will change behavior to get praise which they want Like to talk and better are at it Can be reasoned with and controlled with words 3 years
Become very insecure Fears are common Afraid of the dark, lions and tigers, monsters, strangers, or loud noises May start new habits of self-comfort: thumb sucking, nail biting of nose picking to release tension Try to ensure security by controlling environment Good Morning! 4/23/14
Todays Agenda: Bell ringer compare contrast with partner Finish Emotional and Social Development notes Complete study guide as review Compare/Contrast What are the different ways a 2 year old and a 3 year old might respond to these situations? An adult who wants to help the child with everything
Starting a new child care situation Visiting a parents workplace Specific emotions Anger way of reacting to frustration Expression changes over this stage: 18 months kick and scream 3 years use words
Target of anger 18 months no specific person or object 3 years likely to aim at person or object they see as responsible for causing frustration Anger More frequent in anxious and insecure children Children who haven't learned selfcontrol Children whose parents are overly critical Whose parents are inconsistent
Help them by: Making sure demands are limited and reasonable Fear
Have particular fears at each age 1 year old: high places, strangers, loud noises 3 year old: dark, animals and storms Can be useful: keep them away from danger Others will be overcome with development Separation Anxiety Fear of being away from parents or caregivers
Hard on parents feel guilty leaving Is a stage they will go through and grow out of Coping with separation anxiety Parents can: Offer support and understanding Encourage child to talk and fears and listen to them Sometimes accept it and avoid it for awhile, will go away Read books together about a child who experiences fear Make unfamiliar situations more secure talk about it or go one time to be
familiar know what to expect Jealousy Shows up sometime in the 2nd year Parents may resent affection shown between Siblings rivalry develops New baby Changes in routine or family dynamics
Make sure all children know they are loved Try to have time with each child individually Love and affection Relationships that children have with others in these years form the basis of their capacity for love and affection later in life. Young children must learn to love
1st love of those who satisfy their needs Then grows to siblings, pets, and people outside of their home Relationship should be strong but Individual Differences Remember! Each child is unique! Develop emotionally in different ways Partly due to experiences
opportunities Partly due to how many siblings Partly due to temperament (Intense, perceptive?) Knowing childs temperament can help in dealing with behavior Developing positive selfconcept Self concept how they see themselves
Different from self-esteem Formed in response to actions, attitudes and comments from others Believe what others say about them, which leads to how they behave good, bad Help them by letting them master skills Signs of healthy emotional relationship
between parent and child Child seeks approval and praise from parents Child turns to parents for comfort and help Child tells parents about significant events so they share in joy or sorrow Child accepts limits and discipline without unusual resistance
Review Emotional roller coaster normal! Many emotions are developing know them, how to cope with them, and how to help them through these Positive self concept Study guide Lets Discuss Annie (2 years old) is in the toy store
with her father. From the way she is acting, he thinks she was about to have a temper tantrum. What might he do to prevent it? How should he handle the tantrum is she has one? What can caregivers/parents do to help a child develop a positive selfconcept?
